Simple expressions like "keep in touch" or "I'll always be there for you" are really sweet. It's nice when someone say that, whether they mean it or not. It's easy to be said but hard to be done. Keep in touch, it's about how you keep the bond, stay in touch when distance separates. And it's about two people making effort to contact each other, spending time to just talk. You can not do that by yourself, it's two way communication, you can not do it alone. Effort will come if you think the relationship is worth it, you will find it silly when someone said "I love you" but they don't do anything or effortless. It's the same like saying "keep in touch" but you become untouchable and unreachable. Don't say it if you can not commit to it, you better don't say a thing and do rather than say something but don't do. There will be a lot of reasons why you become untouchable and unreachable, one common reason is BUSY! Your time is yours, you are the one who have rights to spend it, so don't make an excuse that you don't have time, that doesn't make sense. You have time but you don't want to spend it here, you want to spend it there. You make your own choice for that. And again, it's because the relationship is not worth you time. The actions prove everything. Your words become nothing after you act.
When words can be deathly.
Everyone claim that they deserve the truth but sometimes the truth best keep hidden. Because once it has been said, you can not take it back and it only can be forgiven but not forgotten. It's irreversible. Human have feelings. Some of them express it freely, some hold it back for some reasons. But when it comes to love, it's just too complicated, the feeling isn't complicated, the commitment is. The words are combined become the vow, the vow that you do become commitment of life, the question is can you commit to that words? It's not only deathly but also never perfect, but the effort for keep doing it, that's the perfection.
What will you do? Will you do? Or will you talk? Or will you walk away now? I will walk away from this country, make more distance here and there. I can't promise that I will always be there for you, I can not keep waiting, we all have life, but I can promise when you need me, I won't be untouchable or unreachable. I'll try to be there when you need me the most. The only thing you have to do just ask. I'm not going anywhere, you can always reach me.
#prove that I'm worth it.
-vc-
I lost touch with friends I met overseas, or went overseas, and I always regret it but still struggle to find the effort + time needed. There is just always so many things stealing our attention these days, that we tend to gravitate towards what is most "forward". When someone is distant, they might be in our memories, and in our heart, but the distance lets us put them lower on the priority list.
ReplyDeleteI think what I'm trying to say is that you're right it's all about making an effort, and we all really should, but at the same time, it's not a good idea to interpret a lack of contact as a lack of feeling.
couldn't agree more. but it's just scary knowing that you don't know a thing about someone you used to know so well. I didn't demand attention and ask intense communication, just a simple hi. You might think that your friends are alright out there but somehow you don't realize they need a simple action showing you care, who knows what's in your mind? what I am trying to say is just think and say words mean nothing, little action does. :)
Deleteand about priority, everyone have their own priorities, you won't prioritize someone over your job but if you care and love that someone, sometimes it's alright to put aside your job and make time for them. it's not a crime to do that. time is the most precious thing nowadays. live with no regrets, when you still have time and people you love around you. :)
saying "keep in touch" but you become untouchable and unreachable
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