Gentlemen

Men might think that women is a demanding creature but from women's perspective, it's common sense. Looks like these two creatures don't really get along, do they? Well, if women think what they ask is a common thing then indirectly saying men are brainless a.k.a have no common sense?

Is it hard to be a gentlemen? Well, if men demand their partner to be lady-like, why can't they be gentlemen in return? There is no certain steps 'how to be a gentlemen', but sure people have pattern, standard and expectation. But why is it normal for men to be douchebag while it's outrageous for women to do so? Such an excuse not to be gentlemen.

It's not about how to get gentlemen's look. You can have the look but more important is what's coming out of you. It can be manners, attitudes, behaviours, the most important above all is your words. If man cannot keep his words, he absolutely needs a hit in the head. It's about being confident, consistent and persistent. Confident means know what you're doing, consistent means stick to what you're saying, persistent means keep fighting for it. Say what you want and mean it, if you don't mean it then don't say it. One principle of communication is that communication is irreversible. You can have thousands reasons to take back what you've said but once you've delivered your message clearly in the first place then basically it's out there, cannot take it back no matter how hard you try.

"Sometimes we're scared of reality that's why we put it into a joke hoping for different answer." Joke is joke, you can joke around like crazy but that principle of communication applies every time you communicate. Words cut deeper than sword, gentlemen. And keep in mind, no one remember when you're right and no one forget when you're wrong.

Rated: (M) for mature audience

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Line Them Up!

Sebastian Stan


Ed Westwick




Olly Murs



Jai Courtney


TOO HOT!!!

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What is Real?

The condition of post-modernity is losing identity, blurring boundaries, in other word: no one fixed 'self'. I wasn't sure about this paper before but week after week I get more sense of it and it's interesting and exciting. Half brain thinks it's insane because doesn't make any sense but half brain is sinking in to the concept. And it got me thinking indeed it's a crazy world.

People could be anything they want. I can make a profile page saying that I'm a President of Bikini Republic, some people might think "she's crazy, that's not true, that isn't real". Well, it's real enough for me. That's the concept I've created and we've been living in a concept created by society, we accept that, that's why we think it's real.

Come to that sense, I start to realize, what is real when you can see and think that everything is real? Really? When people say "reality is too painful, let's imagine something beautiful and great", which one is real and which one it isn't? 'What's in mind' is not always not real, it can be actual and real or it is actually real.

One time, I watched Dr. Phil (excuse me but I couldn't find anything else on TV), the case was about this one girl faking her pregnancy to her family. From the family point of view, she can't be pregnant and she made the story up. She said that she's been raped, got pregnant then had miscarriage. From the girl's side, that's the story, it's real. She made continuous action through social media, creating her own 'friend', talking back and forth with 'her friend'. The family try to make her realize that she's now sinking in her own reality. The family thinks that she cannot differentiate between the real life and her 'real life'. The family thinks, she creates all this stuff to make her life more excited and that she creates this 'friend' as the person she wants to be. A girl with two kids, great family life and good living. But she insists that that's her 'friend' and she's real.

From that story, we might see and think that she's basically crazy but when someone has diluted that one self and starts living their 'reality', that's the real life they have. It might not real for the society but it's real enough for the person.

 

One of the movie that reminds me of the condition of post-modernity is Black Swan. Lots of movies picture greatly on post-modernity life, such as Total Recall, Mulholland Drive, Being John Malkovich, Scanner Darkly and so on. And unfortunately, believe it or not, that's the world we live in now.

#fascinated

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What Friends are for?

Some people say I'm selfish but on the other hand I'm a giver. Those are contradictive things. How can I be selfish when all I want to do is giving?

I thought what people say about me is right that I am the most selfish person in this planet but interaction with other people makes me realize that I'm not too bad. We have personal reason to be what we are right now. We have experiences that shape us to be who we are now. Maybe bad experiences that make us protect ourselves even more and tend to be selfish. Does protecting self mean selfish? We also won't sacrifice ourselves to do some good things for other people. But what if that other people are your friends? We have our own intrepetation of friends, some might be close to you that you'll do anything for them, some might not be that close so you wouldn't do anything for them. Doesn't matter what people do to you what does matter is what you do to other people, that is you, yourself, your character. It shows who you are and quality within you.

I tend to stop giving when I realize that other people take advantage of me. But that doesn't show who I am. I cannot keep giving for sure, I'll be 'hungry baker'. I can stop giving but I'll start back to do what I do best: giving, eventually. Whether people take me for granted or not, all I do is keep the character strong. Because like a great man said:

"Character is like a tree and reputation its shadow. The shadow is what we think it is and the tree is the real thing.” 

― Abraham Lincoln

So you can take all I have, all that you want from me but you cannot change my character and take my character either. You can be as selfish as you want and you can and it's enough for me to know what you're like as a person. We can still be friends, of course. But I hope we have the same perception of friendship.

#support-help for better

M (mature audience)

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Social Media

We caught up in digital era where everything is fast and mobile. This era is so demanding. Time is precious thing and distance is not a big deal anymore. When one social media is never enough, I am rushing up with time to be able to keep my self in the running of fast paced social life. Somehow people in the other side of the world seem to be closer than people around me. Why? Because when we are apart, we make effort to talk, communicate and contact each other through nothing but social media, yet while doing it, we're dragging ourselves out of social life in the real life. We're used to social media and spend more time on it rather than actual real conversation with others. We might see people face to face but the quality relationship is not there anymore since we're so used to social media. It reminds me of one quote "Social media close up far distance but far up close distance."

Good and bad in one. I admit I might be one of the social media freak. To list all the social media I have now, I'm amazed. I know I need some of those social media to help me in certain things but I don't know that my life will be consumed by these things so much. Go with it and deal with it. I need it and I don't need it. I can live without it but for now, to finish my uni, I need to be familiar with all of these. Just to answer this demanding major.

#hello facebook, whatsapp, instagram, twitter, line, skype, viber, blog sites

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